Pernah tak awak rasa tahap kesabaran awak tercabar? Well, I have. Many many times. Sometimes people are out to test your patience. Maybe it's just God's way of challenging you and seeing how far you can go. I do not like to pretend like everything is OK when it is not. I don't like to paint roses and rainbows all the time. But that doesn't mean I have to dish out my dirty laundry in the open and let people judge and scrutinize.
When I think a storm has passed, suddenly came along another dark cloud. Why God? Why? But, I've been through madness and back. So it's ok lah kan.. Patience and faith are what keeps me sane. This patience thing is a skill I tell you. Of course it's much easier to just blow up, explode and splatter that anger to people around you. But staying calm and composed, despite being challenged, that is honorable.
Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is "timing" it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way. ~ Fulton J. Sheen
Now that I've somewhat honed my "patience" skill, I bite back only when necessary. People will try to poke and prod you just to test your patience to see how you react, but it angers them even more to see you so calm and collected despite being tested. Find that right moment, to express your thoughts and feelings, a point that allows the other person to be regretful of his/her actions/words.
I know this is easier said than done because for many of us, patience is not something that comes naturally to us. However, I strongly believe that patience can be cultivated. When you're a more patient person, you're able to handle stress better and that makes you a happier and healthier person. Not only that, I feel that it can also result in clearer thinking, which means better decision-making. Jangan buat sesuatu ikut perasaan suka hati mak bapak je. Think before you act.
Kalau dah betul-betul sangat rasa tercabar, alihkan perhatian pada perkara yang membahagiakan. Focus on the things that makes you happy. Happiness is a choice. Happy people are simply less likely to get annoyed over the little unimportant things in life. When you nurture yourself by getting enough rest, spend quality time with the people who matter in your life, eat well, you become less irritable and more patient as a person. Take time for yourself and work on the goals for your happiness. Patience can seem unachievable to those of us who struggle with it. I used to have a problem with patience but now I'm better at managing it.
My patience is being tested now and then. But I am keeping faith that Allah knows what's best for me and He won't give me what I can't handle.
[Surah Al-Ma’arij: 5] “So be patient with gracious patience.”
[Qur’an 3:200] “O you who believe! Endure and be more patient..”.
[Qur’an 2:155] “And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirun (the patient)”.
[Qur’an 39:10] “Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning.”
[Qur’an 42:43] “And verily, whosoever shows patience and forgives, that would truly be from the things recommended by Allah.”
[Qur’an 2:153] “Seek help in patience and As-Salat (the prayer). Truly, Allah is with As-Sabirun (the patient).”
[Qur’an 47:31] “And surely, We shall try you till We test those who strive hard (for the Cause of Allah) and As-Sabirun (the patient)”
Asalkan niat kita ikhlas untuk membahagiakan orang-orang yang kita sayang, InShaaAllah, Dia akan berada di sisi untuk membantu. Keep praying and have faith, because HE is always listening. :)