Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Love Note #538 ~ TIME


We have 24 hours in a day. Time management is essential in our daily routine so that we get things done according to our needs and wants. 

My husband and I are blessed with jobs that allows us to have the flexibility of time. We get to spend time with the boys, go out to work and squeeze in some couple time here and there. It's how we make of it. 

We were having a quick lunch right after a work appointment and the husband randomly said to me, "I'm so happy with my job. I get to spend time with you and the boys. I get to meet my clients. And I bring home the money to run the family. What more can I ask? I just need to work smarter and make more money because I want to always be there for you during the important moments. I want to spend time for us. When I make you happy, I feel happy and good things will come, InShaaAllah." 

Very random and sweet ah. Seriously. I'm thankful that my husband is a Financial Advisor. His schedule is flexible and he spends a good amount of time for the family and also for work. His job is not the easiest. It is mentally challenging. However, as a couple, we make it a point to support each other in whatever it is that we do. The both of us are very family oriented people. We'd rather spend all our time with family than with friends or colleagues. As much as I'd love to expand my social circle and hang out with couple friends, he said, family first. How true, to us at least. 

We end our work days very late. Most of the time, at midnight. Once we've gone home and washed up, then it's catch up time. We make it a point to talk to each other about our day, about our feelings and about each other. It has become a routine. We could be watching JOZAN (my husband is madly in love, head over heels, kemarok giler pada Zizan, ok don't ask me why. Apparently, Zizan makes him happy. RIGHT. lol ) or Adam & Hawa (cos i'm a girl and i love fairytales) on Youtube, but it's the silence and time spent together that is very important. 

When we were dating, I recalled arguing with him because we don't spend as much time together. He was busy with work and so was I. Living apart from each other means we don't get to see each other that much. Now that we are married, I realise how important couple time is. It keeps us tight as a couple. 

Being or becoming a couple means finding a balance between couple's time and individual time. The amount of time will be different from couple to couple and it will also depend on the relationship stage that you are currently in. 

You know how sometimes when you're alone and your partner is busy working, you get all worked up and lonely. You feel as if you're abandoned and unwanted. Share those feelings with your partner. It helps, really. 

Try and make the time for each other. It could be doing something together like exercising, doing grocery shopping or even walking your kids to school. The only requirement is that you must spend time "together". 

So today, I had couple lunch time with my husband and I'm appreciative of it. Amidst the craziness of things, we need the space just for US. 

Bila kita dapat membahagiakan pasangan kita, sekaligus kita dapat membahagiakan diri kita. Ini dapat mengukuhkan lagi rumahtangga yang dibina. Cinta seikhlas hati dan beri tanpa meminta balasan. Masa itu sungguh berharga, jadi kalau kita bijak menggunanya, maka berhasil lah segala yang di usahakan.  InShaaAllah.

Heh. Macam syarahan pulak. Just thought I'd share my experience. This whole marriage thing is still very much new for me and there's so much more to explore and go through with your partner. Treasure each moment and appreciate each other. Time for each other is about quality, NOT quantity. ;)

So there you have it, my LOVE NOTE #538 ~ TIME. 

Let's find and make the time to cakap-cakap dan sayang-sayang our partners ok! :)

Ok. Tu je. ;)

1 comment:

  1. i read your blogs, i follow you on instagram, on facebook, but i just can't get to listening to you on warna.. maybe i still feel i'm too young to listen to warna! hahaha..

    anyway, i just wanna say, that i love reading your blog. u wrote them very well. love the way u add pictures & quotes to your topic of the day! :)

    once every few days, i'll peek here to see if you have any new blogs. bila takde, rasa disappointed sey! heehe..

    be sure to keep on blogging k! if u ever think there's no one reading in, remember, there's me! :)

    lotsa love,
    ur fave reader,
    shimz.shymz. :)