A wife and a working mother. Quite an amazing combo. Most of us women are left with not much of a choice but to go out and work so that we can better assist in the family's financial economy. But to be an excellent employee and a great wife, now that is rare. Not that we can't do it, but that would only be possible if we have a solid support system.
I have to admit I'm quite terrible at house chores. Yes I'll do it, but on my own sweet time. Plus once I'm back from work, I'll just stare at that pile of washed clothes in the basket, secretly hoping that they will fold and hang by themselves. Yup, wishful thinking, I know.
My mother is not getting any younger. I pity her when she does the laundry, cooks and looks after Haris and Ashayr. She's old and I've very exhausting for her. It breaks my heart to see her tired and weary.
So enough. I succumbed. To hiring a foreign domestic helper. We need the help around the house. Especially with the chores and running around after Ashayr when I'm not at home.
I've had aunts and relatives with helpers and saw how differently they were treated. Some were nicer than others, to the helper that is. Some helpers are pleasant looking while some are scary to look at. Seriously.
Once the husband gave a green light for us to get a Bibik, I started "window shopping". Lol. From big agencies to the small ones. We compared prices and narrowed down on a few. However, one evening, as I was browsing through netmaid, I saw one particular helper that I liked. She is young but married with a kid as young as Ashayr. No experience in Singapore but worked 2 years in a bungalow in her hometown. Her name is Umi Nuryati.
But, to me, it was "berkenan pada pandangan pertama". The female instinct I tell you. So I called the agency to enquire. Met up with the owner and he arranged for a phone interview. The husband and I are very particular about religion. We are hoping to get a good Muslim helper who does her solat without fail and is able to recite the Quran.
Guess what. During the interview I actually asked her to recite Al-Fateha, Ayat kursi and also Doa Qunut.. Jadi budak ni dengan semangat membaca seperti yang disuruh. Funny ah with her thick jawa accent and all but I was impressed.
So confirmed plus chop plus stamp, we booked her. She came on 3 Jan and she has been a blessing so far. She is polite, honest, hardworking and willing to learn. Alhamdulillah. I teared when I saw my house so clean and clothes nicely folded and hanged. I didn't know how much of a help she can be until today. Having a helper to assist working mothers on house chores is a major burden off our shoulders. Umi has been a great help so far. :) oh ya, she teaches Haris mengaji after solat maghrib on weekdays too! Suka sangat. :)))
However, prior to this, there were so many challenges in getting her because the Indonesian side was delaying her transportation here. My agent offered me other helpers but I insisted in waiting for her eventhough the compulsory day off rule has kicked in.
Encik Fauzy has been so kind to me. Orangnya jujur dan bersungguh-sungguh walaupun lama tertangguh ketibaan pembantu saya ni. He has indeed helped me get a helper that I wanted and liked. My husband describes him as someone "telus". Trust me, he will sungguh-sungguh get the helper that you want.
I'm writing this entry not because he asked me to. In fact I don't think he even knows my blog exists. Lol. But I'm doing this because I believe in helping others. This entry is for Encik Fauzy. He started the agency on a small scale since two years ago and he deserves it. If you are looking for a helper, perhaps you might want to consider his services. Not the fastest in terms of services but truly dedicated and committed. Seriously. :)
Each of us might have different reasons why we need a helper and also her role in our homes. Be clear about it from the start and set ground rules. I had a good, very open talk about my expectations with regards to her work and I feel much better and safe about having her around. Dia datang ke sini pun kerana niat untuk membantu keluarga dia yang susah di kampung, jadi jangan pula kita sia-siakan dia... Goodness will come if you continue doing good. InShaaAllah. :)
Anyway, good luck in finding that perfect helper for you and your family! ;)