marriage has taught me so many valuable lessons. one of which is patience and tolerance. it is no longer just about me and my feelings but it is also about those around me. especially those who matters.
when i was much younger, i used to retaliate and question things more often. but now, i choose to silence myself and reflect on what went wrong, trying to make sense out of things and figure out the best solution that could benefit both parties. it takes alot of ego and humility to be able to swallow your feelings so that others can thrive and be happy.
people sometime misinterpret your good intentions as something with an underlying meaning. this i often experience, now that families have been extended and more lives are involved. you mean a good thing, but they interpret it as selfishness. it can be emotionally charging at times, but i'm thankful for a partner who sees what i see. at the end of the day, no what people may say or how they may judge us, it's those that are close to your hearts are the one that matters the most.
so, it's ok to swallow your pride and feelings once in a while. it's ok for others to come up with scary stories of you. it's ok for people to make silly assumptions which don't make sense. they don't make you and neither should they break you. life is what you make of it. patience and tolerance will go a long way if used properly and adequately.
i'm good so far. still making sense of things. getting used to the people around me. learning how to play clean politics amongst those who matters. this is the learning journey that i chose and i will whole heartedly walk this path.
learn to be patient and all times despite the ridiculously challenging times. learn to tolerate others because we are all not born the same.
Allah is watching over me and you. i'm sure. =)